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When you are taking the long route to baby it can be so easy to start going crazy with pills that might help you become more fertile. I’ve seen so many women trying to get pregnant who take dozens of vitamin pills a day, along with their teas, powders, and sometimes their hormone shots! It’s not that I don’t believe that all these pills and powders are helpful- in many cases I do, and I take some myself. It’s just that I think they aren’t the miracle bullet cure that many people think they are.
In this blog post I’m going to tell you why it is important to not be obsessed with supplements, how to choose your supplements wisely, and what supplements I recommend for everyone trying to conceive.
Are You Obsessed with Fertility Supplements?
We’re starting this post with a little tale about Supplement Sally (don’t hate me for the alliteration). Sally is concerned about her advancing age and wants to lower her FSH and increase her egg quality. She googles what supplements to take and starts doing everything she reads about- wheatgrass, CoQ10, DHEA, Maca, Vitex, Royal Jelly, Bee Pollen, L-Arginine, Inositol, Melatonin, Vitamin E, VItamin C, VItamin D3, Ashwagandha, Antioxidants powder and Green Powder in the smoothie, plus her regular probiotic, prenatal, folic acid, calcium, and Omega 3/DHA. She starts drinking red raspberry and red clover tea. Then she goes to her acupuncturist and gets a load of chinese herbal medicine landing on top of that.
What do you think is going to happen? Is Sally going to get pregnant?
Maybe. Best case scenario, Sally gets a little overwhelmed with all the pills, has some new unexplained stomachaches, but gets pregnant. Worst case scenario, she actually makes her situation worse! Let’s imagine some ways that might happen . . .
If before she started the supplements Sally had regular ovulation and a normal cycle some of these supplements that are meant to improve egg quality might have actually made her cycle irregular (like Vitex).
If previously Sally’s other hormones were at normal levels after a couple months of DHEA,Red Clover, and Melatonin, they are now out of whack. Now Sally’s doctor wants to put her on new medicine to try and correct the hormones.
Some of the chinese herbs from Sally’s acupuncturist might be interacting, or over-amplifying the effects of other supplements she is taking. Sally could wind up out of whack in other crazy ways- her blood pressure might go so low she pases out, her appetite might dissapear, or she might have no sex drive.
See the problem?
Sally though what most people think, “Here is my diagnosis, what pills can I take to correct it?”
It is a pretty normal response. And in some cases it works- and you might get pregnant either because of or DESPITE all the supplements you are taking. BUT you might still be unhealthy and/or unhappy- thus leading to increased chances of pregnancy or birth complications, and continued imbalance.
So what is the alternative?
Finding health and balance
Let’s start with a general statement that I want you to accept as a premise:
In our ideal state, we are completely healthy, happy, and in balance with ourselves and nature.
In our ideal state we eat the perfect diet, we aren’t exposed to harmful toxins or chemicals, and we are one with the world.
In our ideal state we don’t have traumatic pasts or presents that haunt us and color our choices, beliefs, and feelings.
In our ideal state we are perfectly and optimally fertile.
This doesn’t mean we don’t get sad or sick occasionally, but it means we are fully nourished, our immune systems are robust, and our “resting” place is one of peace and happiness.
So, why aren’t we in our ideal state? Well because since we are born sh** happens. We are fed unhealthy food and learn to eat a diet that doesn’t nourish us and is filled with health-depleting sugar and white carbs. We spend our lives assaulted by environmental toxins, some of which we can’t control, and most of which we aren’t aware of until now. We’ve had ups and downs, traumatic situations, disappointments, and fear that has crept into our lives.
So, here’s the bottom line. You want to fix all that sh** as much as possible. You want to return yourself as close to that ideal fertile state as you possibly can.
Can supplements help you? Yes, certainly. Can 25 supplements help you? Maybe, but you’re missing the point.
What you need is to fully nourish yourself with a clean, organic, whole-foods fertility diet, reduce fertility-harming chemicals and toxins from your life as much as possible, and develop a fertility mind-body practice that helps you acknowledge your emotional baggage and begin to heal.
So where do supplements come in? Fertilty supplements should be part of your plan to completely nourish yourself to idea health. Ideally, you are fully nourished through food. That is why I prefer every supplement I can in a food-based way. I drink my wheatgrass and my red raspberry instead of taking pills. I eat my my Selenium, and I am diligent about getting enough sunshine for Vitamin D. Diet & Lifestyle first, pills second.
How to decide if you need a fertility supplement
Here are some questions to ask yourself before you add a pill to your supplement regimen:
- Is this something that I cannot get through a whole-foods diet?
- Is this something that will bring balance to my system and bring me closer to an ideal state?
- Have I researched this supplement sufficiently to feel comfortable taking it?
Add things to your regimen one at a time so you can tell if you have an adverse reaction. For example, royal jelly gave me awful stomach aches, but I only knew because I added it on its own, not the same day I started 5 different things.
So, for example, even though I have diminished ovarian reserve, low egg quality (judge through multiple early losses), and High FSH, I didn’t take DHEA, red clover, or vitex, even though they all recommended for those conditions. Why? Because as I researched them in depth I started to feel like they weren’t right for me. For example, there is some concern that DHEA might worsen hormone-sensitive conditions like endometriosis (which I have!), PCOS, or uterine fibroids. I didn’t want to risk that! Both red clover and vitex can regulate cycles and improve fertility, but they are generally recommended for women whose cycles NEED regulation. Mine were a perfect 28 day cycles with ovulation. I was just ovulating bum eggs. They were the wrong choice for me.
So what pills SHOULD I take?
Honestly, the basic fertility supplements are simple- a whole foods prenatal, an omega 3 & DHA supplement, and a good probiotic. You also need a calcium supplement since you are a woman, and you are probably avoiding dairy to get pregnant. Beyond that you are supplementing for your personal conditions. Get guidance from your acupuncturist, naturopath, doctor, and any other healer. Then, research, research, research. Never trust any one healer or doctor to understand 100% of your health. Only YOU can understand 100% of your health. YOU make the decisions.
The Four Fertility Supplements Everyone Should Take When Trying to Conceive!
Everyone trying to get pregnant needs a prenatal. I recommend a whole-foods based prenatal (that means it is made from foods instead of the pure pharmaceutical vitamin) so it easier for your body to use for nourishment. It is also important to make sure you have a prenatal with folate and not folic acid. Most people cannot process folic acid and it just builds up in the body- it can even lead to INCREASED miscarriages for some. Play it safe and take folate- it gives all the benefits you need from folic acid (decreasing neural tube defects) without the sides effects.
Baby & Me Prenatals by MegaFood– This is the prenatal I took when I got pregnant with my first miracle. It is a whole-foods prenatal with natural folate, and I save an additional 15% per order by subscribing to it and 4 other items a month on Amazon Subscribe & Save. It is non-GMO, and mostly organic, but not completely.
Garden of Life Organic Prenatal – This is the prenatal I take now and was taking when I got pregnant with my second miracle. It is a whole food based, folate instead of folic acid, and it is certified organic. Available with Amazon Subscribe & Save!
Omega 3 & DHA Supplements
You need to be taking these for yourself, your overall health, your fertility, and the health of the baby you are going to conceive. If you can, take a high quality fish oil or fermented cod liver oil. Unfortunately I have a severe shellfish allergy which means I can’t take any fish oils because of cross contamination. I take a substandard DHA supplement which I will link below, and I try to eat lots of food containing Omega 3s and DHA- organic free range eggs, walnut oil, chia seeds, etc. Below are the ones I would recommend for those who can do fish!
Nordic Naturals Ultimate Omega– A good solid fish oil supplement with Omega 3s and DHA.
Fermented Cod Liver Oil – Absolutely what I would take if I didn’t have the allergy. High quality fermented cod liver oil. This is in capsules, but you can also order a variety to take by the spoonful if you are brave. Some people are concerned about the amount of Vitamin A in Fermented Cod Liver Oil, but I am not- it is a whole food, not a pharmaceutically derived “vitamin.” Just be sure to take the correct dosage. Here is Wellness Mama’s explanation of why Fermented Cod liver Oil is best. Watch out for the one she recommends though, it is the same brand but has butter in it (no good for those of us avoiding dairy).
Prenatal DHA (no fish oil)- This is the brand I take because there is no fish oil. It is an algal-based DHA so I don’t have to worry about an allergic reaction. The problem is that al algal-derived DHA goes through a hexane process which could potentially expose it to harmful chemicals. I believe the benefits of the DHA outweigh the risk, but I am always looking for a better option. Take the fish oil if you can!
Get a high quality, refrigerated, multi-strain probiotic from your local health food store. The more strains the better. Make sure it has an expiration date (if it doesn’t have one, you shouldn’t buy it). Ideally you want a potency count of CFU (or colony forming units) of 50 billion or higher. Make sure it has at least Lactobacillus acidophilus, Lactobacillus plantarum, Bifidobacterium lactis, Bifidobacterium longum, and Bifidobacterium bifidum which are important good bacteria in your small intestine, large intestine, and lower bowel.
Calcium, Magnesium & Vitamin D
If you are going dairy free it is even more important to make sure you are taking a calcium supplement! Although you can get calcium naturally from leafy greens and other whole foods, I don’t believe in risking osteoporosis. Taking the Calcium supplement when you become pregnant and when you nurse will be vital for maintaining your own health as well. Taking Calcium, Magnesium, and Vitamin D together, in a chewable food variety, is your best bet so that your body is actually able to absorb the vitamins. Unfortunately most “calcium chews” are filled with gross sugars and fillers that are not fertility friendly. I’ve only found one brand I feel okay with- Adora. I buy the dark chocolate Adora Calcium disks in bulk from Amazon. They are delicious, and at 2 sugars they are my safe singular treat each day. UPDATE: Unfortunately Adora changed their formulation and they now have soy lecithin :(. I still take them because I can’t find a better alternative. If you know of a better alternative, please let me know!
Other supplements that I take for my conditions. I take these now- I was not taking them when I got successfully pregnant.
Vitamin E – I take a very, very small dosage of the antioxidant Vitamin E in a mixed tocopherol form for egg health. Make sure you ALWAYS take a mixed tocopherol Vitamin E if you are going to take it! I only take the Vitamin E on days I don’t drink my magical Lemon Fertility Tonic.
Vitamin C – To complement Vitamin E as an additional antioxidant I use a delicious whole-foods Vitamin C spray on occasion (not every day). Mostly if I feel like my immune system needs a little boost, or if I don’t think I’ve consumed enough natural Vitamin C in that day.
Folate– Because of my MTHFR mutation my body can’t process folic acid well. It is very important that I get enough folate in a bio-accessible form. My prenatal has 800 mcg of food-based folate, but when trying to conceive and during the first trimester I also take this Folate supplement to make sure I am getting enough!
Food supplementation I do, and did when I got successfully pregnant.
Wheatgrass– This is a food I drink in my fertility smoothies for lowering my FSH and providing overall nourishment. I love Amazing Grass for their organic wheatgrass powder. When I travel and can’t make smoothies I take these wheat grass juice pills.
Red Raspberry Leaf, Nettles, & Oatstraw – These are herbal foods that I drink in a daily herbal infusion to boost overall nutrition and improve the health of my uterus. When I travel and can’t make my infusion I take Red Raspberry Leaf capsules.
I also was taking mysterious chinese herbs given by my acupuncturist when I got pregnant, but I am not currently taking any.